Dear Maggie Montclair,
I am lucky to have an active social life. I have two friends that I pick-up and give rides. They live close to me, and it is always more fun to travel with other people. I never let them pay me as I was going anyway, and it just wasn't a concern.
Now, with gas prices going through the roof, I think it would be nice if they would help with a little gas money. Neither has offered even though we have talked about the high price of gas. Should I ask? If so, how do I bring it up, and how much do I charge?
Changing my mind
Dear Mind-Changer,
It is a woman's prerogative to change her mind. You could start the conversation in that joking manner by saying, "Ladies, I've changed my mind about gas money. I'm going to let you help me 'pay the pump.' I never dreamed prices would get this high, so what do you think is a fair price?"
They will probably be happy to pay their fair share. No one wants to be a freeloader. They might decide to drive themselves or suggest trading off. At least it is out in the open where you can discuss the situation and agree on a solution.
M
P.S. Gertie's tattoo artist's mother taped a rate card to the glove compartment door. At first, everyone just read it and deposited the requested amount in the door pocket by their seat. Now it is a big joke and they all laugh as they put their fair share in the door. Sometimes they kid her because there is still money tucked there from the last ride. This method works well for them. Will it work for you? If it's good enough for Gertie's friends it is probably good enough for anyone. Gertie likes the idea because by paying each time it is never more than a few dollars unless it is an out of town trip.
How do you handle 'gas' money?
